There is no doubt that breakups are tough. But they can be even more complicated when your ex calls you to say they miss you. Before answering, take a look at these answers and choose one that captures your true feelings. With a few well-placed words, you can let your ex know what you really think of him (and whether or not you miss him, too).
Steps
Method 1 of 10: Nothing at all
Step 1. You don't even have to give it the time of day if you don't want to
If the relationship has ended badly or has cheated on you, it is best not to respond. If he keeps calling, you can even block his number.
This is also true if he texts you at odd hours in the morning. If he's only texting you late at night or while intoxicated, he's probably not being legitimate
Method 2 of 10: "I'm sorry, but I don't feel anything for you anymore"
Step 1. Gently let him down
If you have moved on (or are trying to), tell them clearly. It's a kind, but firm way of letting him down and telling him that he has to let you go.
- Don't be surprised if it doesn't respond to text like this. You may feel hurt and need to take time for yourself.
- If you answer and get angry, it is best to block your number.
Method 3 of 10: "You are in a relationship"
Step 1. Remind her that she now has to worry about someone else
While it can be flattering to receive an "I miss you" from an ex, if you're dating someone new, it's not fair for that person to stay in touch. Let your ex know that you can't chat while you're with someone else.
Your ex's new flirt probably has no idea you're still in touch. It's not good for your ex to cheat on him like that
Method 4 of 10: "I'm in a relationship"
Step 1. Tell him that you are not available
Texting your ex when you have a new partner is risky, and you may want to ignore their messages entirely. However, if your ex didn't know you were seeing someone, you can tell them so they will (hopefully) stop contacting you.
- If you and your new partner are serious, you could even let him know that your ex has texted you. This way, there won't be any trust issues about it in the future.
- Even if you are not in a relationship, you can use this excuse to get your ex to stop contacting you.
Method 5 of 10: "You just miss the idea of me"
Step 1. People often remember everything good about a relationship
However, you can remind your ex why they broke up in the first place. If he asks you what you mean, go through all the bad parts of the relationship and why they wouldn't work as a couple again.
For example, you can say "Do you remember how opposites our interests are? You ended up going out with your friends and I with mine. We hardly spent time together."
Method 6 of 10: "Then why did you break up with me?"
Step 1. If they left you, have them explain why
This is a good answer to use if you need to close the relationship. If he approaches again without an explanation, have him talk about what he did and why he did it. If he really wants to get back with you, he will be able to talk about it all without hesitation.
Method 7 of 10: "Haha"
Step 1. This will take you by surprise
If you think that the fact that I miss you is too funny or you can't believe that I will try that phrase with you after all that he has done, simply respond with a laughing emoji or a "haha". This is a pretty scathing way of answering, and he should get the hint. If he's smart, he won't respond again.
This is a perfect answer to use if he's trying to contact you late at night or while intoxicated
Method 8 of 10: Change the subject
Step 1. Completely ignore the "I miss you"
If you were having a conversation before, carry on as if nothing happened. If you've received a message out of nowhere, you can say something like:
- "Speaking of wonder, have you seen my blue sweater? Can't find it anywhere."
- "Yeah, I really miss your dog. How is he?"
Method 9 of 10: "I'm fine now. I don't miss you."
Step 1. Tell him that you are over it
This curt answer should stop you on your way and make you reevaluate. If he keeps calling, feel free to block his number or tell him to stop contacting you.
Don't let your ex get in touch with you and ruin your progress. If you were doing well by moving on, keep doing it
Method 10 of 10: "I miss you too"
Step 1. Only choose this answer if you would like to get back together
Before answering, think carefully about why the relationship has ended and what it could be like in the future. If you think that you and your ex have a real chance again, then give him the answer he probably wants to hear.