A kuudere is a cold, distant, serious, quiet, direct, cynical person who does not express his feelings, although he can be loving and compassionate on the inside. You can open up and show your most tender and sensitive side to the people you trust. Kuuderes are not usually labeled as antisocial, shy and embarrassing, but rather as cool and reserved. Read on if you want to be one of them.
Step 1. Kuudere characters are common in anime and manga
Use these characters for guidance and inspiration when creating your own identity. Meet, for example, Ciel Phantomhive from Black Butler and Mai Minakami from Nichijou.
Step 2. Take interest but act nonchalantly
Although it may seem like a contradiction, a kuudere is at heart a loving and compassionate person, although it hides it. Do, for example, good things for people, but do not let them know that it was you, or let them think that you have stopped being who you are to do something good. If someone needs something, such as a pencil, give it to them but don't say anything. Just mutter: "Here."
Step 3. Be smart and educated
Read difficult books with new vocabulary. A good option is non-fiction. Remember to pay attention at school. If you want, you can even study a dictionary. Work hard to excel in college, and become as smart and successful in school as possible.
Step 4. Don't show your emotions
Have a poker face all the time. If someone insults you, don't lose your temper; on the contrary, he fights back with witty responses. Always be cool. When someone tells you a joke, don't smile or laugh. You can laugh all you want at home or in any other private place, since a kuudere never shows those kinds of emotions in front of other people.
Step 5. Be independent
Don't depend too much on anyone. Do things yourself first and, if you need help, ask someone close to you.
Step 6. Act classy, but don't be snobbish or people won't like you
Learn etiquette and good manners. Speak and act politely in public. If you are a boy, be a gentleman. If, on the other hand, you are a girl, act like a lady. Don't use any jargon or swear. Make correct use of grammar. Be mature.
Step 7. Don't talk too much
Speak only when necessary, such as to answer a question or give a speech. If you want to answer, don't answer with a sentence. Do it with one sentence and with as few words as possible. For example, say "Boring" instead of "My summer vacation was pretty boring" or "Nothing to do" instead of "Since my parents wouldn't let me watch TV or go out, I had nothing to do." Do not elaborate an answer or explain anything, unless asked, and still do so in a nutshell.
Step 8. Prank your friends
This is a great way to show off your joking spirit behind your cool appearance, although make sure you don't show any emotion or expression when you do.
Step 9. Be mysterious
Make people want to know what you think. The most important thing is that they don't stop asking.
Step 10. Keep your talent a secret
If you are a person with many talents or gifts and if you excel in everything, do not brag about it. If you want to show your talent, pretend you're not doing it. Put on a poker face and try to pretend you don't care if people like it or not. Don't show any emotion during your performance.
Step 11. Remember to always be cool, even when you are callous and cold, and are not mean to people
Do not forget that a kuudere is indifferent and insensitive, but that you really have to care about others as much as anyone else.
Remember to be nice to your friends. Do not get into the role of a kuudere in such a way that you neglect your friendships. Don't worry about keeping the paper with them; act normal and be yourself
- Open up with your new friends gradually. Don't do it roughly or it will look weird.
- A kuudere opens up over time, so when you make a friend you can trust, trust him.
- Don't change overnight. Adopt some of the characteristics of a kuudere's personality with your friends in your day-to-day life, but not to the point of being unbelievable.
- Laugh in private or with people you trust.
- Be cautious! If you follow these instructions correctly you can become one of the coolest guys people know, but if you do it the wrong way, you can lose all your friends and not make new friends.
- Some people will think you are cocky, spread rumors about you, blame you for things, etc.
- Some people will distance themselves from you.
- You may not make new friends.