There are many ways to meet, interact, and even date pornstars, whether they are acting in movies or online. With this in mind, the easiest way to meet a traditional pornstar is by attending an adult entertainment convention. Also, by taking proper precautions, you can have a pleasant experience meeting a star online. If you have the opportunity to meet or date her, treat her like a normal person and not like some kind of sexual object.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Attend Adult Entertainment Conventions
Step 1. Search online for conventions near you
Adult entertainment exhibitions are typically held in the convention centers of larger cities. Some conventions travel from one place to another, while others are presented annually at the same location. Check online or look in adult entertainment magazines to find out when and where they will take place.
- Try searching online for "adult entertainment exhibitions near me" or add the name of the closest city. However, if you don't live in or near a big city and want to attend a porn convention, you will have to plan a trip.
- The largest adult entertainment convention in the U. S. takes place annually (usually in January) in Las Vegas.
Step 2. Buy your ticket in advance, especially for the main conventions
For the larger annual conventions, attendees often reserve their tickets months in advance. In some cases it is probably impossible to buy tickets during the event.
- Use the convention website or phone number to purchase tickets in advance.
- It also makes sense to plan the trip in advance. If you don't live near a major metropolitan area, you will most likely have to organize transportation and accommodation.
Step 3. Choose the right people to accompany you, if you don't want to go on your own
A trip to an adult entertainment convention is not for everyone. Choose friends who are open-minded, especially about sexuality and pornography. It is probably best to attend with a group of close friends.
- Some couples like to attend conventions together. If you think this is something your partner is interested in doing with you, plan it well in advance.
- Don't try to persuade someone (be it a friend or partner) to go if they really don't want to. It will probably end up feeling sad and it might even ruin your fun.
Step 4. Study the convention program to plan your visit
Print a copy of the event program, which you will usually find on the convention website. Highlight the stalls and events that you really want to see during your visit. Determine when and where you need to be, and estimate how long it will take you to walk to each location.
- Many pornstars, especially the best known ones, will only appear at certain times and places within the convention hall. Schedule your schedule around any must-see stars.
- You can also pick up a program when you walk into the convention center, but you won't be able to plan ahead as effectively.
Step 5. Take a lot of money to spend at the convention, including cash
Each photo and signature of a pornstar has a cost. In addition there are also many sex toys, novelties, food and drinks that you can buy. Make sure to bring cash, as some stalls may not accept credit cards.
- Cash is also useful for tipping.
- As with any convention, there will be plenty of ATMs on site in case you need more cash.
Step 6. Check out your favorite pornstars dancing on the tube or on stage
Although nudity is often prohibited at those conventions (due to local regulation), there are usually pornstars or strippers dancing scantily clad all over the place. There is probably pole dancing on a booth or on a dance stage in one of the auditoriums. Feel free to watch and have a good time.
You probably won't have many opportunities to interact with pornstars in this way. Choose the events to meet and greet the stars that are listed in the convention program
Step 7. Meet and greet your favorite pornstars
Visit designated booths and venues to have your favorite adult artists sign your movies, posters, and photos. Have your phone camera ready or bring a camera so you can take a photo with the pornstars.
- This will be your chance to briefly interact with porn stars, so take advantage of the time. Tell them how much you appreciate their work and if you have the opportunity, talk to them a bit.
- Don't stay open-mouthed or act rude, shy, or strange. Treat them like normal people, either way there is very little chance that things will go beyond a quick conversation.
Step 8. Ask questions of your favorite artists on the forums
While it is true that you can ask questions of the pornstars in their individual booths, there are usually long lines. This means that you have to get in and out on time. However, pornstars often participate in forums during conventions. Feel free to ask any questions you have about them or the industry in general.
Treat them like you would treat any artist at a convention. Ask them what it is like to work with a particular actor or director or in a certain place, this will show that you know them and their filmography
Method 2 of 3: Meet a Pornstar Online
Step 1. Search for pornstars online, from the comfort of your home
Although it can be difficult to meet a pornstar locally, you can always find them online. Many sites feature amateur and professional pornstars via webcam, meaning they interact by text or chat while stripping or engaging in sexual activity. Search online for "girls on webcam" or "boys on webcam" and find something that interests you.
- You can try searching for "girls on webcam" or "boys on webcam" along with the name of the nearest city, but the probability of being able to locate stars in your local area is quite small. If you end up wanting to meet someone, you will probably have to travel.
- Unfortunately, some online stars may be unwilling participants who are being exploited. If something doesn't seem quite right to you, for example, if you have the feeling that the person is an unwilling participant or seems too young, do not participate in the chat. You should also consider alerting authorities to your concerns.
Step 2. Talk to a star online like you would on a date
Whether you're in a public chat room or a private one-on-one room, act attentive and eloquent. Don't use vulgar or rude slang with the person. Act respectfully and try to have a real conversation, be it short or sexual in nature.
- Ask them questions about their life, what they like to do in bed, or what fun hobbies they have.
- Always remember that they are not objects but human beings with real emotions.
Step 3. Pay tips to webcam stars as tokens of appreciation
Even if you only join a webcam site to say hi and chat, it is important that you pay tips to the stars. Typically, tips are a small amount of dollars that you give to show your appreciation. This is the way many of these stars make a living, so it is disrespectful to take advantage of them and not pay them.
You will need a credit card to pay tips. The site must be protected by strong security and privacy measures. If you are not comfortable providing your credit card number, find a more reliable site
Step 4. Set the conditions for a face-to-face meeting, if both are interested
Sometimes you might find someone you get along really well with on a webcam site. You may even want to meet that person in real life. In that case, it is important to set the parameters beforehand. What time will you meet, where will you meet, and what you plan to do during the appointment. Is it purely sexual, a date, or just an opportunity to have fun with someone else?
- The chances of you getting along with a webcam star living near you are pretty slim, but anything is possible!
- You will probably want to bring a friend to rescue you, in case you meet someone a little suspicious.
- Know the risks of possible scams. Never meet someone you have not seen on camera before and always choose a public place with high traffic for the meeting. Never provide personal identity information online or with someone you barely know.
Method 3 of 3: Get to know a pornstar
Step 1. Introduce yourself as you would with anyone
Unless you live in a key location for the porn industry, like Los Angeles, it is unlikely that you will simply bump into a porn star. However, you may meet someone online, such as a webcam star, who you want to meet in person. In either case, it is best to treat the situation or encounter in a professional manner.
- If you come across a porn star on the street and recognize her, politely ask her, “Excuse me, do I know you from somewhere?” If she says no, just chat with her politely without mentioning her career. If she says yes and Mention his career, tell him that you are his fan.
- If she seems interested in chatting, wave to her and say your name. Tell him how you make a living. Share general information about your family or your life story.
Step 2. Compliment her about something not related to porn
Say something nice about her eyes, hair, bearing, dimples, laugh, sense of humor, dress style, or some other quality that is not directly related to her job. While it's okay to chat a bit about his professional work, don't overdo it - let him take the lead on how much he wants to talk about it.
Focus on what makes the person human and not what makes them a porn star
Step 3. Ask the star if she wants to go out on a date, if you feel there is chemistry between you
After introducing yourself and making a little connection, ask the person if they'd like to go out with you one day. If you have a restaurant or movie in mind, so much the better. Show confidence by asking that person out on a date, otherwise they may think they're intimidating you.
Keep it simple and casual: “I really enjoy chatting with you. Would you like to go out some day? I know a very good little Italian restaurant…”
Step 4. Candle and treat her like more than a sex object
A date with a porn star is like any other date. It is not a free opportunity for easy sex. Pornstars are people with real human feelings and experiences. Focus on emotions, common life goals, and passions.
If you are interested in a long-term relationship with her, look at her from that angle. What qualities good and bad marks in her? Does it share or at least complement your interests and values?
Step 5. Support or at least accept their job in the porn industry
If you plan on dating a porn star, you have to be able to accept their job. Don't let what he does on camera interfere with your relationship. Set some parameters about how much you want to know about what it does. Some couples like to be actively supportive and aware, while others prefer to keep their distance.
- Don't expect him to quit his career just to make you feel at ease. How would you react if you were asked to do that?
- If she's interested in getting out of the porn industry, support her as much as possible as well.
Advice
- Even if you've never heard of adult entertainment conventions in your area, there is a chance that they will get off the radar of traditional media coverage and advertising. Search online or in adult entertainment publications.
- Expect overzealous protesters and people at conventions. Outside of porn conventions, you will often find protesters of a religious or moral nature. The behavior of some attendees is also likely to be unpleasant. Porn conventions are a bag full of assorted surprises, so attend with an open mind.
- Get to the convention hall early and avoid the rush. This will mitigate some of the heavy traffic that you may experience in the room during prime-time hours. You can also make some of the visits you want and simply relax the rest of the time at the convention.
- Bring movies, posters, and whatever else you want signed to the convention.
- Maintain good manners and good judgment. Common sense goes a long way. Don't overthink the circumstances and treat the situation like any other conversation.
Warnings
- Never provide personal information online to anyone.
- Always make sure you can see the person you are talking to. Don't trust sites that only have chats without a camera option.