If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, it is not strange that both sexes have trouble understanding what the other thinks. Boys and girls are raised differently and that can make a big difference in their mental patterns as they reach adulthood. If you want to better understand a man's perspective or if you just want to do a fun thought experiment, here are some ideas to keep in mind.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Think Like a Man at Work
Step 1. Stop thinking of your co-workers as your friends
Men value the feelings and thoughts of those close to them, but tend to worry less about co-workers and acquaintances. However, women expect openness, equality and honesty from everyone they spend a lot of time with, including co-workers. In a standard hierarchical workplace, this will lead to disappointment and confusion for women.
Step 2. Say what you feel
Whether you're in a department meeting or chatting with a small team, express how you feel to the group. Men tend to speak more often in large groups to preserve their social position and demonstrate their verbal ability. Tell a story, joke, or present a report to demonstrate your public speaking skills and mastery of the facts.
While women are generally considered good communicators, the truth is that they communicate in a way that facilitates friendship. In a competitive workplace, this can be harmful. When speaking, men take fewer pauses and are less interested in how their listeners are feeling
Step 3. Analyze the situations objectively
Men find it easy to put feelings aside to make practical decisions based solely on facts. Rather, women tend to make decisions based on how other people feel and on their own intuition. Use accurate charts, graphs, and data when making a business decision.
Step 4. Don't be afraid of STEM
From an early age, people learn that mathematics, science, and technology are male, while the arts are female. Challenge the idea that gender is an impediment to your STEM skills. Read science news, watch an episode of Cosmos, and try out new gadgets, games, and apps. If you are a student, sign up for a science or math class.
Step 5. Learn what your limits and capabilities are
Whether you are uncomfortable undertaking a project or doing a small favor for a co-worker, it's best to say if you can't do it (or simply don't want to do it). Men don't think long before turning down too many tasks. On the other hand, if you want a raise, a new position in your company, or more responsibility, tell your supervisor explicitly that this is what you are interested in. Don't be afraid of being seen as demanding or aggressive.
- Women often have trouble saying no to additional responsibilities because they don't want to be perceived as lazy and they have a genuine interest in helping others. To think like a man, overcome these tendencies and realize that saying that it is not a sign of strength and respect for yourself, but not of laziness.
- Men believe they deserve the wages and raises they seek. Be assertive and believe in yourself when you think about seeking a raise or negotiating your salary. Act like you feel like you have the right to ask.
Method 2 of 2: Think Like a Man in a Relationship
Step 1. Communicate openly and honestly
Women often dance around a theme or express themselves in more subtle ways than men. On the other hand, men are more likely to express their thoughts directly and without delay. Share what you think, without ambiguity. Don't give clues about a problem or issue. Be direct and say exactly what you think and feel.
- Be honest with yourself, as well as with your partner. If you are interested in taking your relationship to the next level, tell your partner. Another option is that, if you want to maintain a casual relationship, you must make sure that you and your partner are in sync.
- Men tend to speak less in private than in public. Try to build a relationship with other people by doing things rather than just talking about those things.
Step 2. Exercise your spatial skills
Men are better than women at imagining and remembering new objects or spaces. This is because male brains have a thinner parietal region (the area of the brain that processes visual information).
Making a model, building a Lego kit, or playing a sport like soccer will help you think in a more spatial way. You could also draw a map of a place that you are familiar with
Step 3. Don't worry, be happy
Both men and women worry, but women are more likely to continue to worry long after men have stopped worrying. To think like a man, you must put aside small problems in relationships, family matters, or difficulties in the workplace that you cannot solve.
To be less stressed, you should set aside time for your worries. Stop surfing the internet for a bit and get more exercise. You might also find something that requires active engagement to distract you, like reading a book or painting a picture
Step 4. Show your independence
Although people like to feel wanted, they also like knowing that their partner can take care of themselves. Men are raised to act and think independently. Showing that you can take care of yourself at work and in your social life will increase your self-confidence and let others know that you are a capable and independent person.
Financial security could be enough to make you feel independent and live an independent life. Women are often expected to provide only supplemental income and focus on children, while men act as the main breadwinner. Create a solid financial foundation for yourself to build an independent life
Step 5. Keep your emotions in check
If your first instinct is to yell, cry, or explode in a tantrum, don't do it. Patiently count to ten and try to approach the conversation or the problem in a different way. Women have more brain circuits dedicated to expressing and remembering emotions, so appeasing the emotional instinct is an important step in thinking like a man.
Step 6. Use the physical in your romantic relationships
Touch can express feelings in ways that words often cannot. Men, compared to women, have more than twice the amount of brain space allocated to sexual thoughts. Physical affection is a good way to clarify your intentions and show your partner that you love them.
Step 7. Forget the details
Women, unlike men, tend to notice or remember small moments. Men quickly ignore or forget things like fights, off-the-cuff comments, or potential disrespect. Try not to obsess over negative experiences and be willing to forget.
Step 8. Focus less on your appearance
Women are surrounded by invasive messages that they should look perfect. Men are not bombarded with the same kind of pressure to adjust to a superficial level of beauty and tend to have a better body image as a result. To think more like a man, learn to accept your appearance or your body. Don't worry about your blemishes.
Stand in front of the mirror with your feet apart and say the following: "I'm fantastic." Do it every day until you convince yourself that it is true
Advice
- The brain is extremely plastic. Over time, you can change one or all of your attitudes, beliefs, and mental tendencies.
- Hormones play a key role in determining male and female patterns of thought and behavior.