Talking dirty on the phone is a great way to have some quirky fun with your partner over the phone or even go completely to having phone sex with your partner. You may even feel a bit ridiculous or intimidated when thinking about the possibility of talking dirty on the phone, but once you adjust your thinking and let yourself go, you will be closer to rendering your partner helpless with pleasure. If you want to know how to do it, follow the steps mentioned in this article.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Preparing to Talk Dirty
Step 1. Pick the right time to talk dirty
If you want to have a dirty and perfect phone conversation, you will have to make sure that both you and your partner are alone and ready to start having a sensual conversation. Your conversation will not go too far if you are in your bed while your partner is having dinner with his mother. Plan your conversation in advance so that the two of you are free and alone at home or in your rooms.
Step 2. Dress up and feel sexy
Take a hot bath and put on sexy lingerie and clothes. Even if your partner can't see what you're wearing, you'll be more easily turned on if they see you ready for action. You can even put some essential oil or lotion on your neck to get in the mood.
Step 3. Create the environment
Would you have sex with all the dirty clothes thrown around the room and takeout containers on your desk? Hopefully not. You also shouldn't talk dirty until you are in a romantic atmosphere. Just clean up your space, turn off the lights and light some candles, before going to bed in your clean and cozy bed. Do whatever you do as if it were actually doing it.
Step 4. Don't overthink it
Before picking up the phone and starting to warm up the atmosphere, don't stare at yourself in the mirror or analyze everything you will say to your partner. Even if you've never had dirty conversations before, the process will be more natural if you just sit back and get ready for what's to come.
Step 5. Start to get turned on
This does not mean that you should touch yourself (unless you want to), but rather that you should start to enter a sensual mental space. Close your eyes and think about your most illicit sexual fantasy or remember the last time things were hot between you and your partner.
If it is useful, you can gently caress your body to get into the environment. But you should save that for the phone call
Part 2 of 3: Start talking dirty
Step 1. Find your "dirty talk" voice
It should sound like you but sexier and slower. Don't use the same voice you use to ask your partner how the day was. Instead, speak a little lower and slower. You can even lower your voice close to whispering if you want. Just make sure you sound like you at a certain point.
Step 2. Give your partner some compliments
You do not need to immediately say something for those over 18 years old. Start with some basic compliments. Tell that special someone how much you miss her and how amazing her body is. You can even remind him of the last time you had sex and what it was like. Just start by saying nice things about your partner to get in the mood. Here are some things you can say:
- "I've been thinking about your toned arms all day."
- "I miss both you and your body",
- "I love hearing your voice."
Step 3. Talk about what you are wearing
Tell your partner what you are wearing and describe it in great detail. Talk about how your body looks in your clothes and mention the parts that are exposed. Ask her what she's wearing, close your eyes, and imagine her wearing that outfit. Here are some ways to describe what you are wearing:
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For women:
- "I'm wearing your favorite bra."
- "I'm not wearing underwear."
- "My dress is very tight around my chest."
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For men:
- "My shirt is tight around my biceps."
- "I'm wearing that belt you love to take off."
- "I'm wearing a button-down shirt. It's easy to take off."
Step 4. Talk about what you would do if your partner were there
It starts out slow. Just say a few things that you wish would happen if your partner were with you. You can be as detailed as you want, but you can start with the basics while looking for more elaborate fantasies. Here are some things to say:
- "I wish your arms were around me right now."
- "I wish you would kiss my neck right now."
- "If you were here, I'd start nibbling at your ear. You couldn't stop me."
Part 3 of 3: Get turned on
Step 1. Touch yourself and describe how you feel
You can do it at any time while you are talking. But the earlier you do it, the hotter you will be. Start by gently stroking your body and let your partner know what you are doing. Then ask him to touch his body and go into detail about what you want him to do. As in foreplay, you don't need to touch yourself awkwardly. Just start with gentle touches to get turned on.
- As you keep talking, you can start touching yourself in the erogenous zones.
- Let your partner know exactly what you are doing with your body. If you caress your breasts or stomach, tell them.
- Describe everything you feel to your partner. If you start to feel a sensual chill after stroking your neck, describe it.
Step 2. Tell your loved one how you would like him to touch you
Start by talking about the things you wish your loved one would do with your body until both of you are overflowing with excitement. Take turns saying what you would like to do to each other. This can be more graphic than just saying what you want to do to your partner.
Step 3. Talk about what you want to do to your partner
Let your partner know exactly what you would want to do to his body if he were there. Now that they've started getting aroused and touching, you can go further and say whatever you want to do to their body, no matter how dirty it is.
Step 4. Talk about the excitement you feel
Don't get carried away by shyness. Tell your partner how much it excites you to talk to her and to think that you are close to her. Let him know that it turns you on and that you feel it throughout your body. If your arousal is so high that you feel it in your toes, tell your partner.
Step 5. Reveal your biggest fantasies
Once your arousal has reached a high point, share your fantasy with your partner, no matter how dirty it may be. She will go along with you and talk about it with you, helping you get even more turned on as you imagine the two of you starring in that fantasy together. Don't be afraid to get it all out over the phone. Just close your eyes and start talking.
Step 6. Take off your clothes and talk about it
Don't just start undressing, let your loved one be a part of the show, button by button. If you are removing your shirt, let him know that you are removing it over his head. If you take off your belt, let girl know you threw the belt on the floor. Describe the image of your body so that your loved one will warm up even more.
- You can also ask your partner to remove his clothes. Giving her orders will be extra sensual. You can simply say "Now take off your shirt" or "I want you to take your skirt down."
- When you start to take off your clothes, you can start asking your partner questions. As you take off your shirt, you can ask "Are you sure you want me to take off my shirt?" This will help give you a visual image.
Step 7. Masturbate
If you want to talk dirty just for fun or practice, then you can hang up the phone and get on with other things. But if you really want to commit to the task, then you and your partner need to touch each other until you have an orgasm. If you want to keep things warm, you can announce your orgasm and tell him that you are about to come. This will help with anticipation and will get you both even hotter. Once you've both had an orgasm, you can say goodbye and wait for your next date to talk dirty.
- Don't get carried away by shyness. Tell your partner when you are touching yourself and let him know how it makes you feel. Be as detailed as you want.
- Just like in real sex, it is very difficult to climax at the same time as your partner. If you climax earlier, keep talking dirty to excite your partner. Don't stop and ruin the moment. Keep talking dirty until both of you are satisfied.
Step 8. Have a sensual goodbye
Don't start talking about how the day was or make silly jokes. Just like you would cuddle after real sex, say some sweet and gentle words to her and let her know how amazing she makes you feel. Hang up the phone after a while. If you want to have a normal conversation with your partner, do it later so that both of you can enjoy the sensual feeling of your dirty talk.
Advice
If you are using a different character on the phone, make a list of the characteristics of that personality. For example, if the character is dominant and controlling, try making a list of what you probably want to say
Warnings
- If you are in a place where people can hear you, such as in a public place, they will see you strangely if you talk dirty on the phone. So try to find a place where you can be alone.
- If you are not ready or do not want to participate in a dirty conversation, do not let your partner pressure you to do so. You must be relaxed and comfortable, without pressure or stress.