Being around someone who can't stop talking can get on your nerves. But there comes a time when it is politically correct to step in and politely ask him to shut up. It is possible to do it, pay attention!
Part 1 of 2: Ask the person who is talking to you to be quiet
This is for chatty friends, colleagues, or family members.
Step 1. If the person won't shut up, interrupt them and ask nicely
Make up something and tell him that it was a pleasure to talk, but that you really need to give your opinion or maybe you should go.
For example: "It was great to hear everything you had to say Sally but I'm really in a hurry right now, so I have to tell you this and then I have to go. Do you mind if I explain it to you quickly and then I leave? talk another day. "
Step 2. Identify the situation
In some cases, it's okay to say "see you" and leave or isolate yourself in your own world. Were you shopping at the supermarket, doing your nails, walking your dog down the street, or sitting at home when a neighbor approached you? If you were or are doing any of these activities, it's okay to stand up and go or just make a gesture that you've heard it but are concentrating on something else now.
Step 3. Stop listening
If the person keeps talking nonstop or won't let you speak, then don't care whether or not they are in the middle of the conversation. These are all "me time" situations. This gives you the right not to listen and get on with your day.
Step 4. Make gestures
Show him that it's time to end the conversation with a familiar gesture that hints that enough is enough.
- Start to touch your watch. The person may realize that you are in a hurry.
- Just start yawning or looking away in the middle of the conversation. Do it every five minutes. This will indicate that you are tired and need to rest.
Step 5. Join a conversation with people you do know
Make sure the person doesn't follow you. If this happens, fix them however you can. He has become a stalker!
Step 6. Make excuses
This really is the fun part. Use your creativity. You can say something like "I'm late for my salsa class," "I forgot to make my bed," or "It's time to get the juice out of my grapes."
Step 7. If none of the above works, firmly say, "Please shut up for a minute
"You've been through enough, so he deserves that brusqueness for not shutting up. Once the shock passes and he realizes what he did, apologize for being too abrupt or even stand up to leave. Either one. Choices will make him think twice before starting another monologue now that he knows how much it annoys you.
- A less taxing way may be to infer that you have talked too much and say, "The quieter you are, the more you can hear" or "Stop talking for a moment, can you hear it? It is the sound of silence."
- If the person gossips you, some short lines include: "If you can't say anything nice or positive, at least be quiet" or "You keep talking about the same thing! Which suggests to me that you really are not as innocent as you say. "or" If it's not your story, don't tell it. "
- If he's already completely fed up with you and made you angry, tell him, "The secret to getting bored is saying it all." But be aware that the other person is likely to be shocked.
Part 2 of 2: Ask a person close to you to be quiet
This is for those who like to speak in the library.
Step 1. Tell the person to stop talking or making noise
Ask him to please converse in another room where it is allowed or to speak quietly.
Step 2. Tell the talkative person that it affects your work and that you cannot concentrate
Do it only if he respects you; an abusive or bossy person will think it's funny.
Step 3. Ask someone else to tell you to shut up
If a person refuses to be silent in a library or some other quiet place, let the manager of the place know so they can see to it that the rules of silence are followed.
Step 4. Stay calm and polite while asking people to be quiet
Most people do not speak loudly on purpose and some do not realize that they are raising their voices.