Moving away to study in college can be a major transition. Leaving home can be tough too. However, it is important that you remember that you will not be gone forever. You can always go home to visit your family or stay if you really want to. However, while you are in college, a whole new world of people and fun will open up in front of you. Enjoy this exciting time of growth and adventure by participating in campus activities and meeting new people. When you miss home a lot, take the liberty of experiencing your feelings and seeking help if you have difficulties. During the college journey, maintain your connections to home through regular phone calls, visits, and decorative touches.
Method 1 of 3: Stay Connected with Your Loved Ones
Step 1. Talk to people through weekly phone calls
Don't rely on social media, text messages, and emails as the only means of staying in touch. Make sure to call home once a week or more if you need to to stay connected. You can even make video calls with friends and family at home to feel more connected.
Schedule a weekly phone call when you have time to sit and talk for a while, like on Saturday mornings or weeknights when you have no plans
Step 2. Plan a home visit to have something to look forward to
Colleges generally give students a long weekend and a week off sometime during the semester, making them ideal opportunities to go home to visit loved ones. Plan the visit in advance; book transportation and make plans with friends and family in your hometown.
You can even mark the visit on the calendar and count the days until you feel better.
Step 3. Decorate your bedroom with things that remind you of home
Your college room (or apartment) is your home away from home, so decorate it however you like. You can add some objects from your room at home to make it seem more cozy. You can even keep the same color scheme and theme as your room at home.
- For example, if the walls of your bedroom at home are covered with posters of your favorite movies, take some to college and post them in your bedroom.
- If the color scheme in your bedroom at home is green and white, add pops of these colors to your college room.
- Decorating the bed with your favorite comforter, cushion, and even a stuffed animal can also help make it look more like home.
Method 2 of 3: Deal With Your Feelings
Step 1. Acknowledge your feelings and give yourself permission to experience them
If you notice that you miss home, don't ignore your emotions. Acknowledge what you are feeling and give yourself permission to be sad for a while. For example, you can cry or be quiet and observe your feelings. However, be sure to limit the time you spend feeling sad. For example, you can allow yourself to be sad for an hour or two.
You may also find it helpful to write about your feelings. This can help you understand them better and give you time to experience them
Step 2. Talk to a friend or family member about your feelings
Once you take some time and allow yourself to experience what you are feeling, talk to someone you trust about the situation you are going through. Call a friend, your parents or your siblings and tell them how you feel.
- For example, you can say something like "I feel very sad and I think it is because I miss my home."
- Tell this person how feeling this way affects you. You may find it difficult to concentrate or enjoy fun things.
Keep in mind that you may miss home for a while or these feelings may come and go during your college years. This is absolutely normal. Be patient with yourself and don't force yourself to feel better.
Step 3. Visit the campus counseling center if you have difficulties
If you continue to feel sad or isolated, reach out to someone who can help you. College campuses generally offer free counseling for their students, so consider visiting the counseling center. Call first to see if you need to make an appointment or you can come over at any time.
- It is very important that you speak with a counselor if missing your home interferes with your ability to be successful in courses or participate in daily activities. Also, be sure to talk to someone right away if you lose interest in the things you usually enjoy.
- Call the emergency numbers in your country (such as 911 in the United States or 999 in the United Kingdom) if you think about hurting yourself.
Method 3 of 3: Get Involved in Campus Life
Step 1. Join a club or special interest group on campus
Colleges generally have different clubs and activities available to students. This is an ideal way to fill up your time, meet new friends, and have fun in college. Attend a presentation fair during the first weeks of the semester or visit the student activities office to see what clubs are available. Pick one or two that seem interesting and attend the meetings.
- For example, if you are interested in politics, you can join a group of students from a political party that interests you.
- If you like acting, you can join a drama or improv club.
- You can also join a book club if you like to read.
Step 2. Attend all classes, no matter how discouraged you are
Regular attendance is important to doing well in college, and it's an ideal way to distract yourself while you miss home. Don't miss school because you feel sad about missing your home. Go to classes, learn as much as you can, and talk to people.
For example, you can talk to your neighbor before school starts, introduce yourself to your teacher after school, or answer the questions they ask during the lesson
Step 3. Take advantage of campus facilities
If you have nothing to do, use the time to explore a new part of campus. Colleges generally have a student gym, a recreation center, and a large library. Pick something on campus to try and enjoy.
- For example, you can go to the gym and use the equipment or take a class.
- You can also see what's happening at the recreation center and attend an event or workshop.
- If you have to study or are looking for a quiet place to read, visit the campus library and find a comfortable place.
Step 4. Introduce yourself to your classmates and other people you know
Being in a new place with new people can be scary, but also exciting. Take the opportunity to make new friends. Introduce yourself to the people who sit next to you in each class. Ask them where they are from, what their major is, and if they like college.
Many teachers include an icebreaker activity on the first day of school so students can get to know each other. Try to remember the names of each person you meet during this activity. Then greet them by name, in case you see them later
Step 5. Make plans to do things with the people you know
Accept people's invitations to go out and ask them to go out and do things with you. Look for opportunities to invite them to do things with you and accept the ones you receive to get to know each other better.
- For example, you can take your roommate for a walk around town on the weekend.
- Ask the person who always sits next to you in chemistry class if they want to go to lunch or have coffee with you sometime.
- Have fun with the improv club members if they ask you out.
Remember that you are not the only one experiencing these feelings. Your classmates, roommates, and other people you meet on campus probably miss their home, too.