If you know that you are to blame for a problem, the mature and responsible thing is to face it and accept the error, accept the consequences and be part of the solution. Acknowledge your mistake and prepare to fully accept what you did. Talk to that person, tell them you were wrong, and apologize. Then, leave the situation behind with the idea that you will act better next time.
Part 1 of 3: Realize the mistake
Step 1. Acknowledge that you were wrong
To accept blame, you must acknowledge that you did something wrong. Reflect on your words or actions, and acknowledge the mistake you made. Have a clear focus on what happened and why you acted in such a way.
- Admitting that you did something wrong does not mean that you are weak or inept. In fact, acknowledging our mistakes requires a lot of courage and awareness. This is a sign of maturity.
- For example, if you said you would take the clothes to the laundry, but you didn't, don't apologize. Just acknowledge that you said you would do something and did not follow through.
Step 2. Don't try to make her feel guilty
Keep the focus on you. They may share the blame, and the other person said or did bad things as well. However, focus only on what you did. Just because you agree to be guilty doesn't mean you can freely blame other people for what they did.
- If you acknowledge what you did, the other person may not. Keep in mind that you did the right thing by admitting what you were wrong about, even if that person doesn't. Remember that you can only control your actions and not those of others.
- For example, if a project was not finished and you had to do with the problem, acknowledge what you did. Don't start blaming others, even if they also had something to do with the problem.
Step 3. Tell him something as soon as possible
Waiting to see how things turn out is a bad idea. As soon as the situation is no longer pleasant, acknowledge the responsibility you have for making it so. The sooner the problem is identified, the sooner a solution can be found, reducing the consequences.
For example, if someone ends up being disappointed, talk to them as soon as you can and let them know how you feel. Say "I was going to go to that event, but I didn't make it and it's my fault."
Part 2 of 3: Talk to the person
Step 1. Admit you were wrong
Admitting it shows that you are willing to accept that you are imperfect and that you make mistakes. It can be difficult to admit your mistakes; However, doing so will show others that you are willing to take responsibility for your actions.
For example, say, “It was a mistake to yell at you yesterday. I was still upset, I shouldn't have done it. "
Step 2. Apologize
If the situation warrants it, sincerely apologize. Accept that you were wrong and clarify that you are sorry that you caused the problem or hurt it. Be nice to your apologies and be willing to admit it was your fault.
For example, say, “I'm sorry I screwed up the project. It's my fault, so I take responsibility for it going wrong. "
Step 3. Acknowledge their feelings
If the other person is upset, understand them. Recognize how you are feeling and what you may be experiencing. Start by considering his words or feelings to show that you understand, and let him know that you understand how he feels.
For example, say, “I can understand that you are disappointed. I would be too"
Part 3 of 3: Leave the situation behind
Step 1. Suggest a solution
Part of accepting blame and taking responsibility may include making up for your mistake. Come up with some solutions to correct it. This may mean working harder or promising to do better next time. Whatever it is, show that you are willing to change to make things better. Making changes can help restore justice and restore equality.
- For example, if you're blamed for something at work, offer to stay up late and fix your mistake.
- If you screw up something with your family or friends, tell them it will be seriously different next time.
Step 2. Accept the consequences
Taking responsibility for your behavior can be scary, especially if you know there will be consequences. Take the consequences in the bravest way possible, and when you do, it is all over. You will have learned your lesson and maintained your personal integrity in the process. Try to improve from that experience and avoid making the same mistakes again.
For example, being honest may mean facing consequences at work or school. You can also admit that you did something to your family or partner that you know will upset them. You may know that there will be repercussions, but do the right thing
Step 3. Reflect on your behavior
Acknowledge your mistake and think about what could have caused it. Maybe you had a stressful day and attacked someone verbally. It is easy to divert our anger towards people who really have nothing to do with our bad mood. Maybe you drew hasty conclusions and were wrong. Whatever you have done, think about it and try to make some necessary changes as a result.
For example, if you forgot something because you were in a rush, try slowing down or spending more time on your activities
Step 4. Be accountable
Get someone who can help you be accountable for your words and actions. This could mean being scold by a friend or meeting someone to talk about your responsibilities. Talking to someone about taking responsibility for something can help you deal with it better and faster.
For example, meet someone each week to talk about what you are doing well and what it costs you. Let both of you know when the other person should take responsibility for their mistakes
Step 5. Leave the situation behind
Nobody is perfect: we all make mistakes. Don't overthink the mistake or continually try to make up for the person you hurt. Once you have admitted your mistake and make amends, do your best to put that situation behind you. Even if it's a big mistake, don't blame yourself forever. Accept what happened, learn from it, and move on.
- Once you've done all the steps to correct things, don't live with guilt or shame. Leave behind what happened.
- If guilt over what happened causes you a lot of stress or you can't seem to move on, consider seeing a counselor to help you work through it.
- You don't have to give too much importance to some things. Small mistakes are easy to handle by saying “Oh, it was my fault. Sorry".
- Don't assume that your boss, parent, spouse, or teacher will think the worst of you if you make a mistake. Acknowledging mistakes quickly will earn you their respect. This will not make him think less of you.
- If you're too shy to apologize in person, send him a text or letter. If you're sending him a letter, putting up a small gift (even a sticker) can help him accept your apology.