Here are some tips for getting along with your in-laws. While the relationship may be much closer than you expected, with a give and take from both parties, a satisfying and enjoyable relationship can be built, with small steps and a big heart.
Steps
Step 1. Treat your brothers-in-law in the same way as you would your brothers
Step 2. Treat your in-laws as if they were your parents
Viewing them this way will make you have a long-lasting relationship with your husband or wife.
Step 3. Try not to find fault with them
At the very least, don't create a long list of grievances. If you have so many problems, then it is time to discuss it with your spouse or with them directly.
Step 4. Give them some gifts
Remember their anniversaries, their birthdays or a special occasion for them. It will be of great appreciation to them.
Step 5. Give career advice
Everyone appreciates good election advice. Be smart and help them with whatever you feel knowledgeable and comfortable with. Give your advice according to your abilities.
Step 6. Don't share your marital problems with them
They are always going to have favoritism, it is something natural. Nobody wants to hear degrading stories about their own son or daughter, the natural reaction is to back off and get defensive. Solve your problems privately with your spouse. Don't try to get the in-laws to take your side.
Advice
- Always have a big smile when you see them, as well as a big heart.
- Remember to set limits from the beginning. Many brothers-in-law will be accommodating in order to gain approval, make sure you make a good impression. While this behavior is natural when you're nervous, it's important to set limits sooner rather than later. This will make the relationship much easier in the future.
Warnings
- Let them know that you are not kidding.
- Do not agree to work in the in-laws' family business. This will create an additional level of tension.