It's easy to get excited if you're waiting for a marriage proposal. You could dream of the moment and the way you will react; you could even experience the proposal thousands of times in your mind before it actually happens. Marriage proposals can come as a surprise or be anticipated, depending on the dynamics of the relationship and the circumstances of the proposal. However, regardless of the circumstances, if you want to get married, all you have to do is smile and say "Yes!" and accept the proposal gracefully.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Preparing for a Proposal
Step 1. Don't spoil the surprise
If you think your partner is planning to propose to you, give him a chance to execute on his plan. Don't try to rush the process. Don't give any indication that you expect it to happen.
If you know with certainty that your partner plans to propose to you, you can choose between two options. You can deal with the situation head-on and tell him that you know what he will do, or you can wait for the proposal and try to act surprised. Consider which situation will work best based on the dynamics of your relationship
Step 2. Don't rush
If you know that your partner plans to propose, try to keep it to yourself. Limit your emotion; don't tell your friends, your parents, or even strangers. Nothing is safe. You may feel embarrassed or disappointed if you think about the situation in your mind.
Step 3. Make sure your answer is "Yes"
Think about your goals for life, your career, and your relationship; in your level of maturity and your personal finances; and in your partner. Ask yourself if getting married is the right option for you now. If you say yes, you should do it sincerely without having doubts. Explore your anxieties if you have them and determine how valid they are.
- Delve into your soul. Make a pros and cons list, write your thoughts in a journal, or talk to someone you trust. It is perfectly reasonable for you to meditate before making such a big decision.
- If you find yourself in doubt, don't feel pressure to accept the proposal. You can always ask your partner to give you time. You can keep the relationship in your life without committing to a marriage just yet. You don't have to do anything to make you uncomfortable.
Part 2 of 3: Accept the proposal
Step 1. Reassess your feelings in the moment
It's easy to block out the words and start hearing the voices in your head. However, it may be wise to pay attention to exactly what your partner says. Consider the implications of his words. When done, consider your feelings on the matter. Even if you have already thought about it, ask yourself in the moment if you are ready to marry that person. Feelings can change when you confront the reality of the situation.
Do not delay so much. It's good to stay in touch with your feelings, but you could offend your partner if you keep them waiting
Step 2. Smile and say "Yes
Act sincerely and simply. Make it clear that you accept. If you doubt or joke about the situation, you could hurt or confuse your partner. Allow yourself to feel emotion in the moment. Let it be special! It could feel more authentic if not you plan your reaction.
- Let your emotions show how excited you are about marrying your partner. Say "Yes, yes, a million times yes!" or "Oh my gosh. Of course I'll marry you!"
- If your partner prepares a special proposal (that is, something with a theme or something that involves a private joke between you), consider responding in a way that is related to that theme. Have fun.
- Starting off by saying "Oh Sam…" could scare your partner. Unclear words can confuse you. You may have to repeat your answer; it's easy for your partner not to hear the words in a rush. Repeating your answer also affirms it and makes it feel more genuine.
Step 3. Show your emotions
Thinking about this kind of commitment could leave you feeling excited, peaceful, and anxious. No matter how you feel, feel free to express it to your partner. If you want to build a life with that person, you must share your emotions! There are times when it is best to remain calm, but accepting a proposal is not one of those times.
Step 4. Touch your partner
Place your hand in your partner's and show some affection towards her. This little gesture will show some support and give your partner a sense of closure. Don't be afraid to show your emotion through your gestures. Hug her, kiss her and throw yourself into her arms. Make the moment special!
Step 5. Let your fiancé place the ring on the ring finger of your left hand
This is a classic marriage tradition in many Western cultures. The person proposing marriage kneels and opens a ring box to ask the question; the couple blush, get emotional and say yes, and the ring is placed on the finger to symbolically close the deal. You don't have to do it right away and you can let your partner take the lead, but it wouldn't hurt to reach out your left hand to make it easier.
- If the ring doesn't fit easily, you may need to help your partner do so.
- If the ring turns out to be the wrong size, accept the situation gracefully. Your partner might be embarrassed, so act natural. They can always take it to a jeweler to have it adjusted, but you can't ever experience this magical moment again. Focus on how excited you are about getting married!
Part 3 of 3: Preparing to Get Married
Step 1. Spread the word
This is the time to get excited! Tell your friends and family if you want to, or just tell the news as it arises. Consider posting a status or photo on social media. This can be an efficient and appreciative way to spread the word with the most important people in your life.
Consider your partner's comfort level and the complexities of the situation. If you are not supposed to get married (due to your parents, your religion, etc.), then it might not be wise to announce the proposal just yet. On the other hand, if you have nothing to hide, a cute and cheerful Facebook post could make your partner feel much more appreciated
Step 2. Talk to your fiancé about the terms of the engagement
Make sure you both understand what this means. You have committed to marrying that person and sharing your life together, so it is important that you agree. If you have any special considerations, make them clear at first. Make engagement a collaborative process so no one gets hurt.
Step 3. Plan your wedding.
Now that you have an engagement, you have a wedding to look forward to! Collaborate with your partner and make sure you both agree. They can plan a majestic wedding and invite all their friends and family or they can proceed to have a private and intimate wedding. Set a date and plan, or just go to court to get married!
- Keep in mind that you may need to consider the wishes of your parents and future in-laws. You don't have to let them dictate the details, but you may have no choice if they help you finance the wedding.
- If you are planning a big wedding, you better start as soon as possible. Set a start date or an expected date in general, at the very least. Do you want to get married next week, in six months or two years?