Marriage is an exciting prospect for couples in love, but it can also be overwhelming and intimidating. Read the steps below to prepare for your request, organizing a ceremony, and getting married.
Method 1 of 3: Proposal and Planning
Step 1. Plan the order
Your (hopefully) future spouse should be surprised, delighted, and somewhat baffled by your proposition. It's the kind of romantic moment most people live for, so do it right by planning ahead. Think of the right place, time and words. Try to think of things that your lover especially enjoys - favorite restaurants, activities, and / or music - but that for some reason they can't enjoy very often. Use these as background elements to organize a truly memorable marriage proposal.
Short, simple words are stronger than long, fancy words. If you want to cause a sensation with what you say, think about speaking simply and from the heart
Step 2. Buy an engagement ring
Since you are making the request, it is your responsibility to have chosen the engagement ring in advance. Think about what your lover likes or dislikes. If there are jewelry that you can examine, do so, and avoid gems and colors that appear little or nothing in your partner's current collection.
- Feel free to ask your partner directly about engagement rings, but be sure to ask well in advance so that he or she has forgotten about it.
- Don't feel like you have to spend an exorbitant amount of money on an engagement ring. The most important thing is that what the ring symbolizes. Also, surely the wedding will cost you a lot of money in itself.
Step 3. Ask your lover to marry you
With the ring safely hidden, start the day or night together. Be the best you can and make the date happy and joyful. When the time comes, kneel in front of your partner, take out the ring, and make your speech. With any luck, you will receive a resounding "yes!"
Make the request in public, if you can. Having witnesses around you proves to your lover that you are ready to marry no matter who knows and no matter what they think. Also, the people around you will love the show
Step 4. Start planning the wedding
Once the night is over and they are engaged, don't waste time making plans for the ceremony and the honeymoon. Even a small civil ceremony requires a date and place; Most people will want a more formal ceremony, be it religious or civil, which requires all kinds of event planning skills and a lot of time and money. Don't forget to sign up for a wedding gift list if you want people to bring gifts.
Plan the wedding with your lover. It also includes parents and legal guardians. Very often they will be happy to help plan and defray the cost of the event
Method 2 of 3: Simple Ceremony
Step 1. Choose a date and place
As a general rule, do not get married immediately after announcing the engagement. Instead, enjoy being engaged for a while. Hopefully, it will be the only time in your life that you will be engaged. Once the two of you agree on a date, find a justice of the peace, notary public, or another person with legal power to carry out your marriage. Call ahead and make an appointment; so you have something nice to look forward to that day.
Step 2. Prepare yourself
Arrive early at the ceremony site and bring at least one witness with you. Dress neat or not, however you want: no one else besides the two of you, the master of ceremonies and your witness (s) will be there to see you.
Step 3. Get married
Follow the officer's guide and exchange your vows. Kiss your spouse when you're done! In most cases you can choose to obtain a marriage license the same day you get married; fees vary from state to state, but are usually inexpensive. The license gives you legal proof of your marriage for tax and other purposes. Once you have it, you don't have to renew it.
Method 3 of 3: Elaborate Ceremony
Step 1. Choose a location
Most religious or semi-religious people will choose some type of church wedding, but if you and your partner choose a civil ceremony, it doesn't mean you don't have a choice. Aside from being able to rent chapels and town hall rooms, other viable options can be city parks, family farms, and even cruise ships. There are even people who got married while skydiving! Talk about costs and personal values with your lover and decide on a place that you both like.
Step 2. Choose a topic
For people who adhere strictly to one of the older churches, the details of the ceremony will more or less follow tradition; for the rest of the people, it is time to choose. Remember to take into account not only what you like or don't like. It is a serious and life-changing event; Plan it to reflect your deeply held values and beliefs as well. That doesn't mean you can't have fun choosing an imaginative theme, but don't forget about the momentous nature of the day.
- Weddings based on ancestral cultures can be fun, especially if both parties share a similar background, or if both parties have different backgrounds but are willing to compromise. Feel free to be a bit theatrical, especially if you don't want to do it all following ancient wedding traditions: matching torcs and a silk-clad harpist are perfectly appropriate for a Celtic-themed wedding, for example.
- Weddings based on common interests and styles can be very eye-catching and fun for everyone involved, as they offer an easy way to take standard traditions and give them a little twist to get new proposals. The main thing to consider is the cost: a gothic wedding and a video game themed wedding may seem like diametrical opposites, but both will surely cost more than a simple wedding.
Step 3. Hire help
It doesn't have to be a professional, such as an event planner, but it will help, if you can afford it. If not, ask your friends and family to find people who can help you plan things like where your guests will sit and hang garlands, ribbons, tables, and other items just before the wedding. For tasks that take longer or are more difficult, offer to pay them something.
Trust your helpers. If there is any question or problem, they will tell you. Instead of hovering around, why don't you find something different to work on or help out with?
Step 4. Begin preparations as soon as you can
Normally, you won't be able to make arrangements for your wedding until that day, but that doesn't mean you can't get up before dawn to work on it. In some cases, you can start making preparations a day or two before. If you are lucky enough to have this option, take it: preparing a wedding is exhausting work.
Step 5. Let yourself go
Once the ceremony begins and you are in charge of the wedding, you and your future husband are the center of attention, not only for all the guests, but even for anyone who passes by (for example at a wedding abroad) and realize what is happening. This is not the time to focus on unimportant details or scold someone, nor is it the time to get angry when something is not perfect. Instead, be an example to everyone around you. forgive the problems and complications that arise. Keep your composure with a smile, no matter what, both during the ceremony and at the banquet. Your parents and friends will be impressed and will remember the event fondly.