For men and women to express attraction to each other is a natural part of life. It has always been this way and it will never change. However, if you have a very pretty wife and you are tired of the attention she gets from other men, there are many ways to handle this problem.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Respond appropriately
Step 1. Ask for your wife's opinion
Assess how your wife feels about the situation and try to understand how it affects her. If the stares bother her, discuss whether you should intervene for her or not.
- If you've addressed this issue in the past, then you should already know how your wife feels about the care she receives. If this is the case, decide beforehand how you will respond so that you don't overreact.
- If your wife doesn't recognize the problem, then there probably isn't one. Just enjoy your days together.
Step 2. Get closer to her
Show that you are a couple by holding her hand or placing your hand on her shoulder to show that she is not just a friend.
- Showing affection with a kiss on the lips is a good way to show that you are in a relationship.
- Chances are, your wife is proud of you and appreciates showing affection so that others know you are together. This can also be applied to a situation where someone is starting to stare at you and you want to show them that they are taking you. It works both ways.
Step 3. Quickly display your wedding ring
Sometimes when a man finds a woman attractive he does not take the time to look at her ring finger because he is concentrating on admiring her beauty. If you, your wife, or both of you discreetly display your wedding rings, that will remove any questions about whether you are married or not.
Step 4. Use eye contact
Let the other man know that you are aware that he is seeing your wife. For example, if you are in a restaurant, look at the man who is seeing your wife to show that you are uncomfortable with his actions.
Another way to use eye contact is to stare into your wife's eyes to show that you have a connection that the outside world cannot touch. This strategy can also be used if you have a fan watching you
Step 5. Ask for respect
Politely ask the offender to stop staring at your wife. Tell her that you would appreciate the fact that she shows both you and her a little respect. At this point, the most decent people will stop looking at your wife.
- Encourage your wife to share her opinion with the person who is looking at her, but only if she wants to say something. You can do this without creating a scene by casually telling him that you are with another man.
- If you are still concerned about the attention your wife receives, discuss your insecurities and ask her to comfort you.
Step 6. Laugh at the situation
As with many things in life, it is always good to have a sense of humor. Sometimes you just have to laugh and understand that it's funny that other men think your wife is even remotely interested in them.
Method 2 of 3: Control Excessive Jealousy
Step 1. Use self-control
Controlling any jealous or possessive impulses you may feel can avoid unnecessary drama. Before you do or say something, decide not to let someone else's actions negatively affect you.
Sometimes your inability to maintain control can be the result of past experiences in which you did not feel safe. If you've ever been cheated on by someone, you may be afraid that it will happen again, which can make you feel jealous. Realize that your past is not your present and jealousy is not justified in this situation
Step 2. Trust your wife
When you react to a person who is staring at your wife, you show a lack of confidence in her and possibly low self-esteem. Not allowing the stares of others to affect you shows that you trust your wife and those who stare at her are not a threat. Remember that she chose to marry you and probably has a connection with you that she does not share with anyone else.
- Building your relationship out of love, trust, and respect can reduce feelings of jealousy and help you stay in control when someone is staring at your wife. You must trust that your wife will do nothing to break the bond between the two of you and know that what you have is special.
- Most wedding vows include "giving up everyone else," so remember that your wife made a commitment to you that probably means a lot to her.
Step 3. Introduce yourself with confidence
Whether it's walking confidently or standing tall, presenting yourself confidently when entering a room can sometimes eliminate the problem because those watching you know they can't compete with you.
- Feelings of inadequacy can sometimes create feelings of possession as you want to control the person from leaving you. Being confident can ease your need for control.
- To build your confidence, you can make a list of all the things you like about yourself and perhaps include the things your wife likes about you. This exercise can help you remember that you are indeed a good move.
Step 4. Be reasonable
It is not uncommon for a man to admire a woman. There were probably times when you observed other attractive women and stared at them. It is reasonable to expect that your beautiful wife will receive looks of attention, but that does not mean that anyone can act on those feelings.
Step 5. Ignore it
When you see a man staring at your wife, it can be difficult to tell what kind of person you are dealing with. You may have an anger or resentment problem, which could create an altercation. Instead of being upset or jealous, just ignore it. You can't change what other people do, but you can certainly change your response to their actions.
Method 3 of 3: Enjoy the attention
Step 1. Recognize the beauty of your wife
Make sure to give them enough attention and appreciation. You don't want everyone else to show appreciation for your wife when you don't.
- Make sure you acknowledge your wife's other wonderful attributes and not just her outward appearance.
- If she enjoys being appreciated for her appearance, your interference may be perceived negatively.
Step 2. Enjoy its appearance while it lasts
As women age, their appearances change. This doesn't mean that your wife will stop being attractive, but rather that she probably won't get that kind of attention forever.
Advice
- If you know your wife isn't enjoying the attention, switch places to block that socially questionable man from her point of view.
- If your wife is dressed seductively or provocatively, tell her. This will allow you to decide if you want to change clothes or dress in a slightly more conservative way. This does not mean that you are trying to prevent your wife from showing her beauty.
Warnings
- If you decide to ask another man to stop staring at your wife and ignore you, simply take your wife somewhere else. Don't be offended or angry that this could lead to an altercation that you could have avoided and possibly regret. Always try to minimize the situation before it escalates.
- If you tend to get upset over trivial topics like this, you may appear weak or mean. If your wife is a good woman, she probably knows how to comfort you so that you don't feel threatened by another man.
- Do not provoke an argument or fight under any circumstances.